Child Behaviour

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Until you change their mood, you can’t change their behaviour

It’s much more difficult to communicate with a child who is stressed, distracted, tired or angry — 
choose your moment to get your messages across.  Your child’s mood might be changed with sleep, diet, exercise or even music. Ask your child to focus on their feelings for ten minutes before having any discussion. This goes hand-in-hand with learning to recognise and name feelings, both their own and other people’s. 

Be realistic.  

Don’t be overambitious about changing your children’s behaviour.  To maintain your sanity and energy  choose one behaviour you want to increase and one you want to decrease and then work on them, and only them, for six weeks at a time.

Remove the audience for your child’s behaviour.

Whether it’s you, their siblings or their peer group, many tricky kids actually thrive on the drama, intensity and verbal gymnastics of a dispute.  Also try to emotionally connect, at calmer times, about issues that matter to your child.

A special word on teenagers.

While they might become less communicative, sleep more and want to spend less time in family activities, teenagers “need you as much as, if not more than when they were little.”  Don't confuse your teenager wanting more independence with giving them less supervision.  Teenagers, especially tricky ones, need lots of time with their parents so you can model good behaviour, “create patterns of learning and thinking that are productive” and give them a sense of options.